When Our Adult Children Walk Away
Kanalaren Xehetasunak
When Our Adult Children Walk Away
My story. Reflecting my experiences, observations and perspective - in my words. In the early spring of 2019, under the influence of her gatekeeper-partner, in the heart of the global pandemic. After several years of trying to sort through our differences, my (young) adult daughter made the hea...
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Aligning Your Communication With Your Adult Child's Perceptions
It’s natural to feel compelled to reach out to fix things at every level of estrangement. We’ve been taught to pursue, talk, challenge, and perhaps ev...
Dad and Grampa: Navigating Estrangement Across Generations
Being a strong and steady father to an adult child and a grounded grandfather to their children matters deeply, especially in families experiencing te...
When Estrangement Shakes Our Faith: How loss, silence, and longing can impact spirituality.
When someone is living with any degree of estrangement, it can feel as though everything they once believed to be true about the relationship has shif...
Mom, Mentor, Grandma: Flexing Roles Without Fueling the Fire of Estrangement
The days of straightforward expectations about how moms transition from being a child's mom to mom to an adult child, and finally, from mom to a grand...
Stillness, Space & Grace: Surviving Estranged Holidays
The winter holidays can shine a harsh spotlight on your estrangement, can’t they? While everyone else seems to be posting perfect family photos, you’r...
The Unrest of Not Knowing: Letting Go of The Need for Certainty in Estrangement
You’re not crazy for wanting answers—you’re human. It's human nature to want to know how and why things happen. In estrangement, too often the answers...
When Tradition Meets Transition: 6 ways to Maintain the Meaning of Holidays
The winter holidays can turn a soft ache into a sharp pain when you’re estranged from your adult child. That can be true of any holiday.
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Respecting No-Contact: 8 Strategies to Find Strength in the Stillness
When the phone stops ringing and your texts go unanswered, the quiet can feel unbearable. In “Surviving the Silence,” Dr. Janet Steinkamp walks you th...
How To Be a Supportive Mom and Loving Grandma Without Overstepping or Being Taken for Granted
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Welcome to this safe, judgment-free space to find support, explore new perspectives, and better understand your estrangement circ...
Peeling the Onion One Layer At a Time (Layer 3): Gatekeepers & Coercive Control
Learn about navigating “Gatekeepers” without triggering coercive abuse and further estrangement.
In this deeper dive on coercive control, you’ll...
Peeling the Onion Layer 2 - Cutting into the 7 layers of coercive abuse
You’ll peel back the second layer of the coercive-control “onion” and learn seven concrete ways control shows up: isolation, monitoring and surveillan...
Peeling the Onion One Layer At a Time (Layer 1) - Overview of Coercive Control and Estrangement
In this episode of When Our Adult Children Walk Away, Dr. Janet Steinkamp helps you peel back the first layer of the topic of coercive control. If you...
When the Green Monster Rears Its Head: Jealousy and Estrangement
Jealousy is a natural emotion, and still, it can complicate an already painful estrangement.
In this thoughtful episode, Dr. Janet helps parents...
6 Mistakes Estranged Parents Make That Delay Re-Establishing Communication
Estrangement is often painful, disorienting and frustrating. Even the most well-intended parents can unknowingly make things worse.
In this epi...
When Communication Becomes a Power Struggle: Power, Influence, Gaslighting and Coercive Control
In estrangement, power, influence, coercive control, and gaslighting aren’t just words—they’re underlying dynamics shaping every conversation, every a...
How Do You vs Your Adult Child - Decide Whether to Attend Social Events on High Risk Days?
Join me as I walk you through the challenges and some solutions when you need to respond to invitations scheduled on or related to high-risk days. So...
Navigating Awkward Questions About Your Estrangement: Kindly Setting Boundaries
When estrangement is part of your life, even small talk can feel fraught.
In this episode, I help parents prepare and practice responses for wh...
The Yin and Yang of Parenting Adult Children: Nurture, Structure and Estrangement
Hi and welcome to the WOACWA podcast.
I want to invite you to rethink the dynamics of parenting adult children through the lens of yin and yang—...
5 Ways High Risk Days Feel Different for Parents and Adult Children
Do they think about us? Do they miss us? What are they doing on this particular day or during this time of year? So often, we imagine that they've for...
5 Common Mistakes Therapists Make When Working With Us - Estranged Parents
If you’re an estranged parent working with a therapist—or thinking about it—this episode is a must-listen. In this episode, I walk listeners through f...
Father’s Day in Silence: A Heart-to-Heart for Estranged Dads
This episode is especially for our dads experiencing some degree of estrangement from their adult child.
Father’s Day is coming up—and if you're...
It’s Not Just About the Past: Why Adult Kids Stop Talking to Dad
Are you a dad of an estranged adult child wondering, "How did things get this far?"—you’re not alone.
In this short but eye-opening episode, we...
The Three A’s: Apology, Accountability & Amends - What's the Difference and Why It Matters
What’s the difference between an apology, accountability, and making amends? Why does it matter so much to your adult child when you're estranged from...
Rebuilding Trust: How Estranged Moms Can Reconnect- Episode 2
This episode is a follow-up to our Mother's Day conversation—and it's all about what to do next. If you’ve been blamed, shut out, or accused of things...
Crossed Wires: The Role of Emotional Incest in Estrangement
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The Hardest Days: What is a high risk day and how to prepare (Overview) Episode 1 of 5
Some days are more difficult than others. Some days shine a spotlight on our estrangement grief - the silence and loneliness. These are high-risk days...
When Mother’s Day Hurts: 10 Reasons Our Kids Pull Away
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of emotional turmoil, can trigger our grief, and can shine a light on the empty chair at the dinner table - especially...
Managing High-Risk Days: How to Protect Your Heart, Mind and Future Relationship
Whether it's a holiday, birthday, or significant life event, high-risk days may – usually do - heighten the pain, loneliness and embarrassment of estr...
Close But Different: Rejection vs Dejection
If you’re experiencing some degree of estrangement, you have almost certainly experienced the sting of rejection and the emotional gut punch of deject...
5 Differences: Therapist or Coach? Which is best in my circumstances?
Ever wondered whether you need a therapist or a coach to help with your family estrangement (or any big life challenge)? Or maybe both? What if a pers...
5 Ways Therapists and Coaches can Help Resolve or Reinforce an Estrangement
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Reasons 11 - 20: 20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift (Extended)
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It's True, Moms and Dads Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Extended)
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It's True, Mom's and Dad's Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Short)
In this episode, we dig into some of the differences and similarities of how moms and dads tell us they experience and navigate estrangement.
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Reasons 1 - 10; 20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift (Extended)
20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift - A Deep Dive Into Reasons 1-10 (Extended)
Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the...
The "Let Them Go" Movement and It's Distant Cousin "Let Them Go - Good Riddance" (Short)
The "Let Them Go" movement grew out of the emerging phenomenon of parental and family estrangement. Originally the movement was based on positive acce...
Stop The Noise! The 20 Gifts of Walking on Eggshells (Short)
Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is falte...
6 Tips to Proactively Give Space to Your Adult Child and Avoid Misrepresentation
In this episode, I discuss six tips that will proactively ensure you give space to your adult child and avoid misrepresentation by others. This topic...
Is the Sky Really Falling? How to Avoid the Habit of Catastrophizing
In this episode, we consider avoiding or getting out of the habit of catastrophizing. You might be saying, “Hasn’t the worst already happened?” I sugg...
Cracking the Busy Body Code: Managing Your Message
In this episode, we crack the Busy Body Code. I share several easy strategies to manage a busy body by controlling your message. You can protect your...