Come Here To Me: Relationship Experts Walk the Talk
Kanalaren Xehetasunak
Come Here To Me: Relationship Experts Walk the Talk
Spouses and psychotherapists Figs and Teale offer relationship advice, wit, and vulnerability with a look into real couples therapy sessions—their own.
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How to have The Talk in your relationship
What makes things better is connection. This week, Figs shares a short training on the conversation couples need to have before problem-solving about...
No Bad Guys! ft. The Bachelor
Are partners born wicked, or do they have wickedness thrust upon them? From The Bachelor to the state of politics, "bad guys" are a recipe for disconn...
Understanding Conflict w/ "Rooster & Chickie"
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Defensive Dating
In "Defensive Dating", Figs explains how becoming our "protector" selves in relationship backfires.
In a 30-second clip, reality tv star Tiffany...
Relationship Shame
Figs and Teale dig up the roots of Figs' shame around their wedding anniversary. If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit...
TherapyJeff's 'Healthy Relationship' Tiktok
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Early-Relationship Betrayals
Teale surprises Figs with a topic they've been dancing around since the very beginning of their relationship. If you or someone you love are strugglin...
Men vs Women in Relationships
Figs chats with podcast host (and relationship skeptic) Nicolas Gregoriades about the most common relationship dynamic between men and women. If you o...
Feedback Failures
Are your concerns usually met with defensiveness? You might be stuck in a feedback loop… Figs explains why constructive criticism is so difficult, and...
Should You Diagnose Your Partner?
Figs and Steph discuss the pros and pitfalls of the growing trend of partners "diagnosing" each other with personality disorders. If you or someone yo...
Healing the Present in Please Like Me
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The Truth About Codependent Relationships
In "The Truth About Codependency", Figs explains how to actually help couples in a codependent relationship—starting with critiquing the term.
T...
How to Fix a Toxic Relationship
In "How to Fix a Toxic Relationship," Figs breaks down what a toxic relationship is (and isn't) and the steps necessary to repair it.
For the pu...
Attachment in HBO's Succession
In "Attachment in HBO's Succession," Karen joins Figs to discuss a particular scene in Succession (S4E2) as a representation of deep attachment-based...
Triggering Or Toxic?
Couples Therapy Works: How do you know if your partner's behavior is unacceptable? Karen joins Figs to answer this important client question. If you o...
Seeing The Negative Cycle
In "Seeing The Negative Cycle" Figs and Karen take a close look at the makeup of The Cycle, a concept from Emotionally-Focused Therapy.
A cycle...
Behind the Therapists
In "Behind the Therapists" Karen and Figs use the feeling of being overextended to explore 3 "roses" and 1 "thorn" about being a couples therapist, ea...
Why He Withdraws
"Why He Withdraws" is a follow-up to the last Figs & Teale episode, "Pursuer Problems," and it's Figs' turn for an "affect assembly" with Teale's help...
Impossible Moments
What do you do when there are no moves left?
In "Impossible Moments" Figs and Karen discuss a moment every couple will experience throughout the...
Back From Betrayal
The balancing act of couples therapy takes center stage in "Back From Betrayal" as Figs and Karen break down the process of bringing couples who are g...
Breakup Empathy
In "Breakup Empathy" Figs and Karen examine why empathy is the essential ingredient in their work with couples, even when they part ways.
"Empat...
Pursuer Problems
In "Pursuer Problems" Figs asks Teale to model moving from a negative "story of other" (blaming and criticizing your partner) to a self-compassionate...
Married to a Workaholic
A listener's relationship issue is highlighted in "Married to a Workaholic" as Figs and Karen take a nuanced look at a system they've seen hundreds of...
Don't Try This at Home
In "Don't try this at home," Teale and Figs give each other feedback—something that is not a good idea when couples are fighting or feeling reactive w...
Into The System
Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode...
Unsupervised
Relationship Experts Walk The Talk is a deep dive into the struggles, cycles, and joys of relationship from couple and counselors Figs and Teale. Lear...
Attachment, A to Z
Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode...
Sexy Times
In their most vulnerable session yet, Figs and Teale talk about sex and intimacy in their relationship.
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Failure To Reach
Figs and Teale are trapped in the "Protest Polka" in this session around work/life balance. Learn to see a path out of the cycles you get trapped in w...
Sharks in the Water
Pandemic parenting leaves Figs and Teale treading water in this episode from early 2021. Listen as they cycle through pandemic fears and conflicting v...
Parenting
Figs and Teale process wounds around their daughter's difficult reaction to the early pandemic and explore the triggers and cultural context around th...
Reflections
Figs and Teale share a session deeply exploring a moment of reactivity outside of their relationship for Figs and the ways anger and shame can subsequ...
Both Sides Now
Figs and Teale reflect on the previous episode's climactic session and the revelations it brought for each of them.
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Safe With You
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Do You See Me?
New and extraordinary emotional truth is shared in this session wherein Figs and Teale stop defending their stories and start experiencing the empathy...
Colluding
"That which we resist, persists," in this therapy session featuring Figs and Teale trying to hide from a negative cycle.
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The Process
Figs and Teale reveal the unique challenges the podcast has presented in their relationship as they explore the role emotional processing plays for co...
Reeling
Figs is sent reeling when a session on repair goes in an unexpected direction when Teale tries to connect deeply. Explore the ways preconceptions shak...
Hurry Up and Wait
Figs and Teale share a session digging into a recurring negative cycle triggered by waiting and discuss the difference between vulnerable or "Primary"...
Too Much, Not Enough
Figs and Teale share a clip of their first session with a couples therapist. Witness how the ways they miss each other escalates into hurt and blame a...